Surviving on Singles Street

Surviving on Singles Street

Triumphing on Singles Street was borne out of a desire to inspire single people to a life of contentment in their single status. It aims to show that they can survive, be happy and live victoriously in a world which tries to make singles feel they have not achieved success because they do not have a partner in their lives. But this is a lie from the pit of hell.

Recently, a woman booked an appointment to see me. As she sat before me, I wondered what the issue was going to be about. She took a deep breath and then declared she would not have come to me except that 3 people had approached her on the same matter - it was to do with me.

By making this statement, I think she was trying to establish the matter as a spiritual truth (the Bible says that in the mouth of two or three witnesses a truth is established).

After a few moments of reflection, she then told me in the most sincere tone of voice that she could muster: "A well meaning brother in the church has told me that on the matter of marriage, he's not able to pray for you."

I waited with bated breath to hear the reason why this brother had reached his conclusion. Apparently, it was because I looked too fulfilled and contented. In his mind I couldn't possibly be looking for a mate.

To be honest, I stared back in amazement. Thoughts raced through my mind such as, "Should I go on spiritual holiday now and tell her a few home truths?" or "Should I let the fruit of the Spirit reign?" I miraculously chose the latter!

She then proceeded to tell me about the second man who had confided in her about my single status. Apparently, he also felt that I did not look as if I was even considering marriage.

As she was recounting this man's viewpoint, joy began to well up inside of me. I smiled at her and allowed her to continue with the view of the third witness.

The third man believed that I looked so fulfilled and satisfied, that a marital partner would not fit into my life.

With amazing peace, I calmly thanked her for providing these wonderful pieces of feedback.

I also gave glory to God because it was evident that He had done a mighty work in my life. His glory was covering my life and beautifying me, making me appear glorious in the sight of others, even married men as these miserable counsellors turned out to be! It was also obvious to me, that a prayer point that I had made to God at the beginning of the year had been answered.

As a mature single I am aware of many older singles that are tired of waiting on God to bring their perfect mate into their lives. Some have begun to help God, others have begun to compromise their stand because they do not feel that special person will enter into their lives. I had to decide I would rejoice in my singleness and be an example to others.

A second thing that became apparent to me concerns the book, Triumphing on Singles Street. I was becoming a living example of being a triumphant single. This is the central theme of the book - I recommend that you read it.

This woman had come to tell me these stories in the hope that I would take off the mask, breakdown and scream, 'I need a marital partner!' She was used by God to show me that I had conquered the world's negative perspective of singleness and had begun to live a triumphant life. I was shining for all to see!

Triumphing on Singles Street explores the different issues commonly faced by singles. It begins by depicting the different characters you can meet as you interact with other singles in life. Miss Vixen - the red hot man-eater, Mr Flirtatious - the man who cannot be seen without at least two women on his arm, Miss Vulnerable - who has been hurt so much that any man who shows her attention is in trouble, and Mr Carnal - a distinctively non spiritual man - are some of the twenty six characters who live on Singles Street.

The book then takes you through the real estates business as you explore the different types of houses these singles live in. The analogies used help to take the single Christian on a road to self-discovery.

The journey along the street also explores games singles can play; games against God, with others, themselves against the Church. Secret Squirrel, Russian Roulette and Dodge the Pastor are some of the games covered in a humorous yet insightful way. When singles play games, the result can often lead to painful experiences which can lead to loss of self esteem or worst still negative feelings about singleness

Triumphing on Singles Street sensitively takes the reader from a painful experience of single life to focus on the hope, healing and the victory which is available at the end of the tunnel.

By looking at the issues of singleness in a non-traditional way, I wanted singles to talk about the real issues that they face. And in a way that would get them talking about themselves and their approach to relationships in a positive way.

Sometimes, single people can take themselves too seriously. I wanted to show that in reality, when you trust in God, singleness is fun. I believe TOSS has achieved this purpose.

I would be interested to know what you think..  Tell me how you have been able to survive on Singles street.

About the Author
Ade D'Almeida wants to bring a smile to people's face in this sometimes depressive world. Visit her website at AdeD'Alemeida.com