Low Sex Drive: Is Your Decreased Libido Affecting Your Relationship?

Low Sex Drive: Is Your Decreased Libido Affecting Your Relationship?

Every relationship's sexual activity goes up and down for a variety of reasons. At the beginning of a relationship, you have sex like Olympic athletes and eventually you stabilize into a less rigorous routine. Couples eventually end up in a pattern that involves less sexual activity than in the beginning. This only becomes a concern when someone actually loses interest in sex.

A relationship doesn't work without sex. Otherwise you're simply roommates. Sex is what sets your relationship apart from friendship. Sex creates a special bond between the two of you because it's the one thing that you share with only one another and no one else. It crucial and if you're not interested in it, your relationship is going to suffer.

There are 5 common reasons why women experience a decreased libido. Once you figure out what is causing your low sex drive, you can fix the problem and get on the road to repairing your relationship.

1. Aging 
After menopause our hormone levels decrease and our bodies change.

If you are post-menopausal, go to your doctor and tell them what's going on. There are some over the counter herbs that might be able to help with your changing hormones.

2. Problems in the Relationship
When things are rocky in a relationship, women lose interest in sex. Sex brings us closer to our partner and when we are mad at them, we don't want to share that bond.

If your relationship was rocky before your decreased libido, it's time to seek some help. Go to couples counseling. If you don't want to go that route, both of you start keeping a journal. Write down what you're feeling and take turns telling each other what's bothering you.

3. Life Stress
Stress from life can directly influence your sex drive. These could include your job, family, friends, children...

If you're feeling unnecessary stress, it's time to start dealing with it. Make a list of everything that stresses you out. Once that is complete, make a list of 2 possible ways to eliminate each stress. You need to begin eliminating those stresses from your life. You don't want to add divorce to your stress list.

4. Medication
Different medications can decrease your libido. Anti-depressants and birth control pills are two common drugs with the side effects of a low sex drive.

Have you recently started taking a new medication or altered the strength of a current prescription? Look up the drug on the internet and see if decreased libido is one of the side effects. If so, call you doctor and see if there is an alternative that doesn't affect your sex drive.

5. Medical Problem
Various medical conditions can affect your sex drive. Some of the most common are depression, thyroid issues and uterus conditions (like Fibroids and PCOS).

If you aren't experiencing #1-#4, it's time to make an appointment with your doctor to discuss your low sex drive. There might be an underlying issue that you aren't even aware of.

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