Interracial Dating Advice

Interracial Dating Advice

Interracial dating in the western world really isn't what it used to be. The days when it was almost universally frowned on are over. That said, there are still those who are opposed to interracial couples and there are communities that reject the notion entirely. Still, by and large, if you live in the US, the UK, Canada and a handful of other countries, interracial dating really isn't seen as that big a deal.

If you are finding it difficult being accepted as a couple, though, if you have friends who get a little uncomfortable around your new boyfriend/girlfriend because of their race, if people challenge you over something as ridiculous as the color of your partner's skin, there are a few things you can do to counter that.

If you have friends that refuse to accept your partner for who they are, then you have to ask yourself if those friends are really worth keeping around. It can be shocking for some to discover that longtime friends have secretly been harboring racist feelings all along, and all they needed was the presence of someone of another race to bring it out of them. They feel intruded upon by your decision to date someone of another race, and the truth is that it's not your problem to deal with, it's theirs, so make it clear that they can either accept your partner or find new friends. Bottom line: if at all possible, avoid people who don't accept you and your partner.

Secondly, you should consider the community you live in. Many of us from predominately white or predominately black or predominately Asian, Latino or any other sort of community may forget that just because we can walk through the neighborhood feeling completely safe doesn't mean that our partner never feels threatened. Some areas, some communities, some groups just aren't accepting at all of other races. If you plan on getting serious with your partner, you should consider looking for a home or a community where diversity is commonplace, somewhere where both of you can feel safe and accepted.

And finally, don't listen to anybody who has an issue with your partner's race, no matter what they try to say. Someone who tells you that "Interracial children will have a hard time being accepted" may as well be saying "they'll have a hard time being accepted by ME". The greater western community is generally accepting of interracial couples. It's not American or European culture that discourages interracial dating, it's individuals and small pockets of civilization who are still stuck in the 1950's. If you fall in love with someone who's black, who's white, who's Hispanic or any other race, that's your prerogative, nobody else's.

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