Dating Tips to Get the Guy - 10 Tips to Keep You on His Mind!
OK, let's be honest...guys are animals and they do have a predator-prey mentality. They enjoy the challenge and if it's too easy to pounce on the prize then they'll be looking for their next gazelle in no time! It isn't about playing games, it's about playing it smart. You still need to be yourself but at first you don't need to reveal everything and giving him a little at a time can pay off a lot!
- Get beautified for your date! It makes you feel sexy and him fall off the barstool when you walk into the restaurant (if it's a first time date than you should meet him and not let him pick you up unless he's a good friend of a friend or you've known him). Get a Mani Pedi (or do one yourself), where a nice dress (only reveal to your comfort level but stay classy (slutty will only have him thinking your easy) and where high heels because it will elongate your legs and is the signature footwear of a women. Remember, if you feel beautiful and sexy then it will project onto everyone around you! Confidence is key!
- On your first date, try to talk about neutral but exciting subjects. Go with cool experiences, places you've traveled, hobbies etc. Stick to things that determine if you have anything in common. Stay away from personal subjects like your family, how many kids you want, your timeline for getting married, and your last boyfriend disaster! I'm not that far off, us women do it all the time and add alcohol to the mix and were an open book!
- Make sure your not dominating the conversation. It's not a conversation if you're the only one talking! Remember to let him chime in and don't interrupt...it's annoying to not be able to finish a sentence so raise your awareness of the give and take.
- Always be the one to end the date! This is very important because the more he wonders about you the crazier it makes him! Don't be abrupt, just let him know you had a good time (if you did) and that you'll talk to him soon. You can say that you have an early morning and if he asks what you have to do then say that you have to work or work-out, they are two good reasons to get up.
- Wait for him to call you. If he's interested he WILL call, just be patient and go on with your life. If he doesn't call then keep moving. Don't stop dating because you're waiting on him and keep busy.
- When he does call, send it to voicemail. Give him a call back a few hours later and let him know you had a busy day. Give him some time to wonder why you didn't pick up...remember the more he thinks about you the better! Another quick note- Do NOT get in the texting habit! If he texts you then send back a vague response so he'll call. If he text's that he had a great time on your date then simply text back "me too." You do not want to let texting become your main form of communication because it does not give you the opportunity to connect and holds up progress.
- When you do talk on the phone make sure that you are the first to get off. Always demonstrate that you "have a life." You want him to recognize your independence and confidence which are both attractive qualities. At first, try to limit your conversations to 10 minutes to make sure that you close out the convo!
- Reject his first offer on the day for the next date. If he asks to take you out Saturday then HAVE PLANS and you don't need to tell him what they are just keep him wondering! Then you can recommend a day the YOU are available. If he's not available on that day than make him wait even longer to see you. If he rearranges his schedule to take you up on the day your available than you know he's really into you!
- Again, baby steps! Reveal a little at a time... which brings me to the big reveal! DON'T have sex to early! That is one of the things he thinks about, is working for and wants REALLY bad so don't give it up. You have to hold out or you're risking losing him. Some say to wait 90 days and if that's what makes you comfortable then go for it but I recommend 5 weeks or 10 dates... whichever comes first! Again it's your comfort level!
- Don't go on vacation before the 5 weeks or 10 dates because he's working hard and that king size bed in the hotel room in his mind is his ticket into your playhouse! Be careful and keep the key to your chastity belt hidden in a safe place! One of the biggest mistakes women make is to go away for a weekend and give up the goods. WAIT and save the weekend away for later!
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Those are my top 10 dating tips but remember, anyone coming into your life should enhance it not make it what it is. Have your own interests, hobbies, and life outside of the relationship. You want to make sure that if it doesn't work out you still have things that are just for you.
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